🦋Soul Wealth Chronicles – Issue 13

The Difference Between Knowing a Woman’s Body and Knowing Her Soul: When expertise misses the mark

After publishing Issue 12: Why I Will Never Settle Again, I shared a teaser for what was coming next. The teaser simply said: “He blocked me. But not before reminding me of this truth: Knowing a woman’s body is not the same as knowing her soul.”

Some of the first responses I received were from men. One said: “I would rather know a woman for her character and behavior as opposed to just lusting over her body. A real man knows what I’m talking about.” Another added: “Intimacy begins with conversation. It’s not worth knowing a woman’s body if you’re unwilling to get to know who they are as a person.”

On the surface, both comments sound supportive. But notice how the focus still gravitates back to the physical. Lust, sex, and bodies, as the reference point. That’s the irony. Even in their effort to “say the right thing,” the deeper truth still goes unseen: women are whole beings, with souls, stories, and inner lives that can’t be reduced to anatomy whether praised, defended, or debated.

And this is exactly why Issue 13 had to be written.

After publishing my Special Edition on perimenopause, I also received a message from a man who happens to be an OB/GYN. You’d think someone with decades of training on the female body would know how to engage with a woman’s truth. But what I found instead was the difference between knowledge and wisdom.

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The Disconnect

Instead of reflecting on what I wrote, he defaulted to what he knew: anatomy, hormones, medications, and sexual function. In his world, that’s the framework for women at midlife. But here’s the thing: my newsletter wasn’t a request for medical advice. It was me speaking from lived experience, from my soul.

And this wasn’t just any man. He’s an educator at a prominent medical school; someone shaping future physicians. Yet even he reduced my truth to a clinical chart instead of engaging with the voice behind the words. That made the moment even clearer: knowledge is not the same as wisdom.

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The Truth

This moment revealed a deeper truth: knowing the female body is not the same as understanding the woman herself. Many can memorize the anatomy, prescribe the treatment, or quote the statistics. But that doesn’t mean they can sit with her reality, feel her spirit, or honor her rebirth.

A woman’s transition through perimenopause and menopause isn’t just physical. It’s emotional, spiritual, and deeply personal. It’s about identity, grief, awakening, and yes, transformation. If you only see the body, you miss the soul.

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Why I Refuse to Settle

This is exactly why I will never settle. Titles, professions, and accomplishments might impress on the surface. But without depth, curiosity, and soul connection, they don’t hold weight with me. I’ve lived too much, carried too much, and risen too far to give my energy to someone who only sees the surface.

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Closing Reflection

A woman’s body can be studied. Her hormones can be tracked. Her symptoms can be charted. But her soul? Her soul must be listened to.

That is the difference between being known and truly being seen. And that is why I will never settle for less.

When a man tells you who he is, whether through silence, excuses, or shallow words. Believe him the first time. Alignment requires depth, and I will never settle for less.

With grace,
Natalie

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