Where are you being invited to say “no” so you can protect your peace?
Lord I can go on this one for a while. I'll just summarize one or two real quick.
Perhaps not as verbal as I could, but quietly saying no. I've had to say no when it came to previous employers, some family, leave my home church, and even a few long time friendships. I had to think about myself for once. Whether it was rejecting unethical requests and verbal abuse from a female director from one place I use to work at to politely stepping away from ministries and taking the brunt of church folks opinions because I knew they didn't know or see what I had access to witness going on, but knew how it would be framed. That one hurt but after awhile everyone understood why I left out of respect for the church. Sometimes there's no need to say anything, just leave and wish them well.
What’s one thing you’ve said yes to in the past that you now realize should have been a sacred no?
WOW! I could go on for days on this question too. 😁
I guess it would be a couple of relationships. I understand most people hear and know about toxic masculinity and some of the terrible things some men do or have done, but few want to hear or consider toxic femininity because there are some women out there who are just as bad.
Fortunately I'm a quick learner and was able to remove myself from those situations. I've learned to inquire and ask questions, observe and listen more.
PS: Hey Natalie. I hope all is well with you. I've been missing in action past couple of weeks. Just been ridiculously busy, but getting back on track. I absolutely enjoy each post. I've got to catch up, but I'll get it together. I try to put some thought to my response to your questions. I apologize if they're too long. I do read them.
I really appreciate you sharing this. It takes a lot of courage to honor those quiet “no’s,” especially when it involves family, friendships, and even church. Sometimes the most sacred no is the one that protects your peace without needing explanation, just as you said. I also value what you shared about relationships; it’s true, toxic energy can show up in many forms, and wisdom comes from recognizing it and walking away. I’m glad you’re getting back on track, and please never apologize for your thoughtful comments. They add so much to the conversation here, and I always enjoy reading them.
Where are you being invited to say “no” so you can protect your peace?
Lord I can go on this one for a while. I'll just summarize one or two real quick.
Perhaps not as verbal as I could, but quietly saying no. I've had to say no when it came to previous employers, some family, leave my home church, and even a few long time friendships. I had to think about myself for once. Whether it was rejecting unethical requests and verbal abuse from a female director from one place I use to work at to politely stepping away from ministries and taking the brunt of church folks opinions because I knew they didn't know or see what I had access to witness going on, but knew how it would be framed. That one hurt but after awhile everyone understood why I left out of respect for the church. Sometimes there's no need to say anything, just leave and wish them well.
What’s one thing you’ve said yes to in the past that you now realize should have been a sacred no?
WOW! I could go on for days on this question too. 😁
I guess it would be a couple of relationships. I understand most people hear and know about toxic masculinity and some of the terrible things some men do or have done, but few want to hear or consider toxic femininity because there are some women out there who are just as bad.
Fortunately I'm a quick learner and was able to remove myself from those situations. I've learned to inquire and ask questions, observe and listen more.
PS: Hey Natalie. I hope all is well with you. I've been missing in action past couple of weeks. Just been ridiculously busy, but getting back on track. I absolutely enjoy each post. I've got to catch up, but I'll get it together. I try to put some thought to my response to your questions. I apologize if they're too long. I do read them.
I really appreciate you sharing this. It takes a lot of courage to honor those quiet “no’s,” especially when it involves family, friendships, and even church. Sometimes the most sacred no is the one that protects your peace without needing explanation, just as you said. I also value what you shared about relationships; it’s true, toxic energy can show up in many forms, and wisdom comes from recognizing it and walking away. I’m glad you’re getting back on track, and please never apologize for your thoughtful comments. They add so much to the conversation here, and I always enjoy reading them.