💌 Soul Wealth Chronicles — Issue #9
How to Survive the In-Between
There’s a strange kind of stress that comes with the in-between.
This year hasn’t been filled with big breakdowns or disasters. No major losses. No devastating blows. And yet, it has been equally stressful in its own quiet way. Because while nothing has gone “wrong,” nothing feels fully “right” either.
The in-between is its own type of wilderness. It’s not crisis. It’s not breakthrough. It’s the space between what has ended and what has not yet begun.
And wow, living here is tough.
The Nature of the In-Between
After my divorce and the years of constant change, multiple moves, losses, job shifts, business pivots; life was loud. I knew what I was up against. Survival mode was obvious.
Now, it’s quieter. But the quiet is unsettling too. I don’t feel stuck exactly, but I also don’t feel fulfilled. It’s like standing at the train station with no idea when the train is coming or even where it’s headed.
I look back at everything I’ve done since 2017 and I know I’ve accomplished a lot. I’ve pushed through storms, tried and failed and tried again, moved to new cities, built businesses, and kept going when it felt impossible. And still, I long for the day when I can say with my whole chest: “My life is so amazing.”
Signs You’re in the In-Between
Maybe you’ve been here too. The in-between feels like:
Nothing is wrong, but nothing feels quite right.
You crave the “next thing” but don’t know what it is.
Rest feels shallow, time feels slow.
You can’t shake the feeling that something bigger is coming but it hasn’t arrived yet.
How to Survive the In-Between
Here’s what I’m learning about this space:
1. Name the Pause.
You’re not “stuck.” You’re in gestation. The cocoon isn’t wasted time, it’s necessary transformation.
2. Ground in Daily Ritual.
For me, repeating “I am safe” and visualizing my parents hugging me has been a lifeline. My dogs remind me I’m still deeply loved and needed. Find your anchor.
3. Celebrate Micro-Wins.
Even in limbo, you are still moving. Look at how far you’ve come, not just how far you feel from where you want to be.
4. Let Creativity Hold You.
My journaling, tarot pulls, and these newsletters are outlets keeping me connected to purpose when clarity feels far away.
5. Trust the Unseen.
The in-between is where the Divine does its quiet work. Just because you can’t see movement doesn’t mean nothing’s happening.
Closing Reflection
The in-between isn’t punishment, it’s preparation.
One day, I’ll look back at this season and realize it was the womb of my next life chapter.
And this morning, I looked up and saw the moon. The stars were hidden behind the clouds, but the moon still shone through.
That’s what this season feels like: I don’t need the whole sky to know I’m being guided. Sometimes the moon alone is enough to remind me; I’m held, I’m safe, and the next chapter is coming.
For You
Have you ever been in the in-between? What helped you survive it?
Comment below and share! I’d love to know how you’re moving through your own cocoon season.
✨ The Becoming of Natalie continues.
This is a place I find myself coming back to time and time again. I often feel as if I am on the cusp of something great or some new revelation, so it can be frustrating to not know what the next step is or how to take it. One thing I have learned is that you do have to be willing to let go of your old self or your old life in order to embrace what is next. You’ve got this, my friend. I can’t wait to see what’s next for you!
Well… All I can say is that there’s so much I would like to share, but I can say that I can relate. The few times I shared my story with anyone I found myself giving them tissue and reassuring them that it’s alright than I did telling the story of how I like to say, “How I got over” as a nod to the hymn, but I like how you framed it, “How to survive the between.”
Surviving the between for me has been a walk of faith and learning to not be govern by sight. Accepting reality that those I’ve helped them ‘survive the between’, encouraged or supported do not have or know how to do the same for me. That was probably my hardest lesson. Anyway, the post isn’t about me lol.
How to survive the between? Learning to trust the process. I’ll stop here, before I get started, but I truly appreciate what you had to share in your post.